1. You’re single. And you love it, well most of the time. NOT. Okay, maybe a little. You do question if there is anyone out there for you. Most days you do. Maybe not every single day, but it does occur more than you care to admit.

2. All your friends are “taken”.. Some married, some have kids, and all that relationship jazz. So that excludes you from anything and all things “couples”, you don’t get invited to outings.. and if you do it’s like you’re the third wheel, whichever wheel who has time to be a wheel. #nothanks #nowheelinghere < yes, I just hashtagged in my blog. & with that being said, men just assume because your friends are married then that has to be exactly what you’re looking for.. just because you’re single doesn’t mean you’re ready for marriage << such a typical thought for people who assume entirely too much. 

3. Most weekends it’s just YOU. All of your lonesome. Comfy clothes, pajamas and whatnot, the couch, and Netflix is basically all you know. Netflix and chill, right!? Most of the time as well you read your nights away. Oh, and coffee might as well be your boyfriend 

4. Questions. You can’t keep count of how many times you’ve questioned, “What’s wrong with me?” “What am I doing wrong?” …. You’ve sort of convinced yourself you may just be single forever.. With that said, there isn’t anything wrong with you, you just haven’t met the person that will pursue you and only you, that will cherish your worth, that will cherish your value.  Ladies and gents, if they don’t lead you closer to God then that should be the tallest tale of a sign. Need I say more.. I didn’t think so.. 

5. More questions. You also can’t keep count how many times you’ve been asked, “Why aren’t you married?” Or “Why are you STILL single?” ….hold on why I plot in my head of how I’m going to punch you and run. Not literally, but goodness those questions get old.

6. Patience. You are completely aware of the word patience and have come to know its true meaning. Literal terms. Your relationship status is currently patience. #meetmybfpatience << yup, I did it again. No shame of up in my game.. 

7. Killer independence. You’re perfectly okay with your killer independence, but wouldn’t mind a companion, BUT only the right one. No time for your emotions to get involved with the wrong one again. After all, your emotions are pretty intact. You’re over the games. Elementary was so many moons ago.. not to mention you no longer play on the monkey bars so why would it be acceptable to play games with a boy that is unsure of all things commitable,  and well, wants to hang with you and Sally and Jane, too. NEXT

8. You really have no interest in dating.. speed dating.. just dating period. Your dating record hasn’t been such a success and your heart really has had enough. You don’t have time for the hurt anymore. Call it scared. Call it fear, but you’ve really had your fair share of wounds, and well.. You’re running out of band-aids. 

9. You’re guarded for a reason. It didn’t just happen over night. Some people will get that and then there will be some that don’t. People will try to act like they know you… you ignore those and carry on with your single career and be guarded. Be you! 

10. You’re always like the go to girl… “I have someone in mind for you to date.” As soon as someone knows you’re single, it becomes a game. Let’s see who they can fix you up with. < I don’t know about you, but I’m so not a fan of blind dates. For the record, I’m not about a dating website either. 

11. Tis the season.. You really are trying to be content in the now. Being content in this very season. Every season is for a purpose, a rhyme and a reason. You may get lonely and start wishing, but I think we can agree that you’d prefer to be lonely then be with the wrong one (again) or even remotely out of God’s will for you. 

His Will. When you’re in His Will your heart is at peace, and when you’re not there’s no peace. Remember single ladies, focus on you. Find yourself. There’s a silverlining in every heartbreak, feel the ache, feel the hurt, but don’t let it break you. Know your worth. Know your value. Don’t fall victim to someone who doesn’t appreciate you, who doesn’t pursue you, and doesn’t respect you. Have standards. If that boy don’t meet those standards then it’s bye, Felicia!