I think the whole concept of blogging is to share not only your thoughts, but your heart as well. And maybe in doing just that you yourself can overcome the struggle and maybe just maybe help someone overcome the battle they’re facing.

So here it goes…

Something that’s been forever weighing on my heart and mainly my thoughts. This goes deeper. To the core. Makes you sick to your stomach to even admit. It’s reality. But boy do we all do it. And if you don’t then seriously much kudos to you. Comparing yourself to others. “What does she have that I don’t?” Such a nice picture society has depicted for us. It’s a hard pill to swallow, but I think we can agree that we all do it, have done it or could very well be struggling with this issue. It’s a big deal. Call it low self-esteem, but unfortunately it’s reality for most people.

If you are going through this, I encourage you to stop this very moment. It’s consuming your mornings, your happy thoughts and making you dwell on all things negative. Negative thoughts is a negative life. Switch your focus. Don’t look at social media. Take a break from it if you need to or block people. Blocking is sometimes good for the soul. Pray to have the courage to not look. Know you are enough. You are fearfully and wonderfully made.

“I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.” Psalm 139:14

There’s nothing wrong with you. You were uniquely created, uniquely chosen, and pieced together to be the very best you by God. So be just that. AND that’s something I’m facing myself. Being content in my own skin, the very being that God made me, hazely green eyes and all.

You may say, well you don’t know my situation or what’s going on. And that is very well true. I can promise you I’ve went through something similar, and still battle with it here and there. For instance, I live in a smalltown so as much as I try to escape from seeing my ex, it sometimes doesn’t work. Specifically seeing him with his new bae. (I just laughed out loud because I used the word ‘bae’) I actually saw them together just recently and well all the questions came crashing in like a tidal wave, “what’s wrong with me?”, “am I not pretty enough?”, “worthy enough?”… the whole nine yards of those exact thoughts went through my mind. It’s hard. But we must face it with endurance. Face it head on or it will consume our happiness. Why give someone the power to control you??

The very person that made you feel worthless, you know the one who knocked you into this whole comparing state, and made you feel not good enough. Take it as a sweet blessing in disguise. So take heart in that. It’s not healthy. An attack straight from the enemy. Pray for God to give you strength not to even look at the past. You’re not going nor growing in that direction, and most certainly can’t move forward if you’re looking back. You could miss what God wants to show you, but you can’t see that if you’re blinded by trying to validate yourself by comparing yourself to another, another who is probably just as guilty of comparing as you are.

Remember your validation is in Christ alone. Be confident in your skin. Hold your head high. Each day is a new day. A new day to believe in yourself. A new day to stop comparing. You can do this. We can do this. It won’t be easy, but our strength comes from The Lord.

“God is our refuge and strength, en ever-present help in trouble.” Psalm 46:1

Have an accountability partner. This is a little cliche’, but look in the mirror and OWN you. After all there’s only one you. That’s a big deal. I think if we focus on that and put all our energy into the godly woman we desire to be then all the other mess will diminish. YOU are a rare jewel. YOU are beautiful.